Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Pink Balloons Floating Away


I participated in a memorial service for Becky Shelby today. Becky died from breast cancer on my birthday in January. Her family is all in Tennessee, so they did not have any service here. All her friends at Unitrin Insurance here wanted to do something to remember this neat lady. So we were asked to each write our thoughts of Becky and bring that paper with us to the top of our 5 story parking garage at noon today.


We tied our notes to a pink helium-filled balloon. Several of us then spoke about rememberances of Becky. She always amazed me while I was going through my chemo. Becky came by routinely to check on me and to give me a hug. She was fighting her cancer again and again, but she took the time to come see me in my "cot room" to see how I was doing. That meant a lot to me and I was proud to share that with the friends assembled on the parking garage roof. When everyone was finished, we let the balloons go. The wind carried them up, up and away between 2 of the 3 buildings in our complex. It was amazing, none of them got caught on wires or anything. They just floated away, but like Becky did.


On my note I wrote, "Good friend, good supporter. If you find this, make sure that everyone you love gets a regular mammogram and does self-exams. From one breast cancer bearer to another. Love you, Becky!!!"

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Sandy Does the Electric Slide

We tried the walker-leash. We tried cookies & praise. We tried a whistle. We tried a squeaker toy. We even resorted to the black plastic whooping spoon. None of them kept Mr. Sandman VIII out of harm's way when he was off the leash. And with the Golden Retriever breed and with Sandy in particular, he needs the exercise daily to run and play and burn off his energy.

So last weekend after some unpleasant happenings on our daily walks, we made the decision to purchase one of the electronic collars for dogs. I checked out all the varieties online and placed an order for an Innotek Rechargeable Basic Remote Trainer. It has a little box with some probes that fit closely to Sandy's Adam's apple. I charged it overnight and we tried it out Friday night without good results. But Saturday I read the instructions (a novel idea) and discovered that it came with longer probes for longhair dogs and that it has different "incentive" levels.

Saturday we went out with Sandy again, better educated and with the correct "incentive" level set on the remote that we hold. Sandy has always loved kids and other animals, especially dogs. He will run after kids and dogs and there has been nothing we could do to stop him. Right off the bat, we met 2 young girls walking down the street on our path. Sandy took off like a rocket to one of them. We're both hollaring, "Stop, Sandy! No, Sandy", but to no avail. Then David pressed the remote once. Sandy kind of shook a little but didn't stop. David pressed again. Sandy kind of yelped. The third time David pressed it, Sandy jumped up in the air and yelped loud. We called, "Come, Sandy, Come!" And boy, he came right to us and was ready to sit, and get a cookie.

He had to be given some incentive once to come away from a fence with other dogs in it, but it was only a little incentive.

And mysteriously, he became a much better, more obedient dog almost instantly. He didn't know how, but suddenly we had power over him even when he was off the leash. He got LOTS of love and praise and cookies on the walk because every time he came to us when called, we reinforced that with good things.

The final real test came though, when we turned a corner and there was a C-A-T sitting in the alley ahead of us. Sandy was immediately at attention. Prior to yesterday, we would have lost him to the chase. But yesterday, David told him to SIT and he did. Told Sandy to stay and he did as we just waited for the dumb cat to go away. It was wonderful!!!

The incentive given of course, is a beep and a shock. Just to let you know, while I was getting everything put together and charged, I tested it on myself and I kind of yelped and jumped like Sandy did. It's enough to get his attention to know that he has to mind what we verbally tell him to do, but it's not horrible. And the trick is to only use it when he ignores the verbal commands and does his own thing----don't think that's going to take long, as well as yesterday went. I took him for our 1/3 mile walk this morning before church with it and he was a model little boy. He was eager to please and came when I called him and stayed closer to me than usual. Twice he found something nasty to eat along the way and I told him, "No, No" and he dropped it both times and went along his way. That was a major improvement because he'll eat anything and then get sick and throw it up.

More as we get him trained with the Electric Slide collar. We want him to be a good citizen and not jump on people, not chase their dogs & cats, and come when we call and NOT get run over darting across a street. I would highly recommend Innotek collars and this is after only 2 uses!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Substitute Teaching

I was asked to sub for one of the 1st grade teachers at our church last Sunday. I'm thinking, "1st graders, young & eager kids, who still want to please you and learn." Instead I had 5 girls and 7 boys who were young and were 1st graders and that's where the expectation stopped. Talk about shocked, I was. Granted it has been several years since I've taught little kids, but this was way different from what I expected. The GIRLS were even rude and boisterous. They were more interested in letting the other kids know that they knew "bad" words. I nearly had to horse-collar one little innocent tyke to keep him from sharing every bad word he knew. There was another lady in there to help and she had her hands full just keeping the boys in their seats and hands to themselves, while I tried to tell the Bible story.

If I get called back, it will be with Sandy's black plastic spoon in my purse. At least then I'll have some protection. It was all very sad and very disappointing. I had made bookmarks for each child with the memory verse on the back and even laminated them. One child outright refused it. Two of the boys threw theirs down on the floor and said it was "just a bookmark." One girl left hers on the table. I have placed the teacher on my prayer list. She's got her hands full.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Nightly Massages

As part of our nightly routine, I run our Homedics massager over David's legs and his back. At first this just drove Sandy nuts. He'd bark and jump away any time I would come near him with the thing. Then he got braver and braver until he would actually touch it with his nose, still barking the whole time. One night I turned it way down slow and caught him and put it on his hindquarters of his back legs. He loved it. Now David's lucky if I finish his massage without getting interrupted by Sandy begging for HIS massage. He just comes and stands by me and looks at me with those big, sad, brown puppy dog eyes and it's his turn then. And NO, he's not one bit spoilt!

Meddling Minister Part III --- Covetousness

Covetousness: wanting God and _________. You fill in the blank. WOW. This one really hit me because I tend to want more. I tend to not be content with what I have, but just know that I'll be totally content if I get ________. Until the next time I want _______. You can just fill in the blanks with whatever. I tell you our house is bugged and he's listening in. But wait---I'm thinking it's God who is listening in and Brother Steve is just the messenger. I'll be glad when he gets on to the parts that pertain to OTHER people. Amen.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

No More Skating

Every time we think about the events of last Wednesday when David fell on the ice on the patio, we just shake our heads. David didn't even get sore from the fall he took! His neck was a little bit sore if he turned his head a certain way. And what really made us thankful all over again---Sunday morning someone in our Sunday School class asked for prayers for a doctor they know who fell on the ice and is still in ICU with brain issues. We were truly blessed.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

I'm Just Boring & We Like It That Way

I had a regular 3 month checkup with my oncologist Friday morning. Had my typical one hour wait to see him, even once you're in the little room. So I read for a little while and then proceeded to take a nap. I was asleep when he came in. Dr. Brooks is really the only doctor I have cancer-wise who has a sense of humor, so he laughed. He checked me over, I told him about the "incidental atypical cells" from the pathology report and he asked to no one, "Atypical cells, I wonder what that means?" He said that the tumor marker test they do on the blood work could come back positive if it finds anything. Other than that, he told me I was boring and to come back in 3 months. That's exactly what you want your oncologist to tell you!